Boxes of love
When someone you love loses a child it is hard to know the right thing to say or do is. Many times we shy away from doing anything at all because we believe the absence and silence is better than doing or saying the wrong thing.
As a loss mom I can tell you absence and silence is not what we need.
More times than I can count I am asked, 'What can I do for my friend, family member, coworker, etc. that has lost a child?'.
They ask what helped me the most.
What words were spoken?
What grand gesture was made?
What gifts were given?
I have thought about this a lot.
It is the simple things that mean the most. It's the reminders that let me know my child is not forgotten. It is affirmation that no matter how much time passes since the loss of my son my people are still here for me. It is the act of them just trying. Reflecting on my own grief journey I have come to the realization there is a need. And a need I can help with. I can help bridge the gap between these two worlds. We can let supporting our loved ones outweigh the fear of doing the wrong thing.